What The Hell Was I Thinking?
About five months ago, I asked a coworker out.
I got rejected.
(Big whoop)
What I found fascinating was she's the only person I regretted asking out.
What do I mean?
It's not her fault, it's mine. My dumbass thought someone who:
- Vaped
- Smoked
- Went clubbing
Would have been my ideal date...
Now, good reader you might be asking,
"You're regretting over someone who vapes?"
There's a cultural meme. Someone can be a 10/10. But if she vapes, then she immediately turns into a 2/10.
Really, the issue is compatibility.
Why would someone on self-improvement date someone who clearly wasn't?
What I cared more was the validation of going out with someone.
What's my end goal? A loving family.
If I choose to pursue short-term relationship, I'm going against that ideal.
"I want to get to know them better."
That sentence is a trojan horse.
People say don't judge a book by it's cover. Well, what happens if the book chose it's cover?
The moral of the story is:
- I shouldn't have asked her out.
- I need to be more selective about the people I ask out.
- Long term > short term
BONUS: My Father's Reaction
I discussed to my father about asking this coworker of mine. Just knowing the workplace dynamics about it.
Told him I ended up getting rejected.
"That's alright."
The subtext of his reaction was being a bit surprised.
Parents are right in that they spend the most time with you. They're probably the next best judge to whether or not you're a worthy partner.
Then again, there can be bias because they are your parents.