What The Hell Was I Thinking?

About five months ago, I asked a coworker out.

I got rejected.

(Big whoop)

What I found fascinating was she's the only person I regretted asking out.

What do I mean?

It's not her fault, it's mine. My dumbass thought someone who:

  • Vaped
  • Smoked
  • Went clubbing

Would have been my ideal date...

Now, good reader you might be asking,

"You're regretting over someone who vapes?"

There's a cultural meme. Someone can be a 10/10. But if she vapes, then she immediately turns into a 2/10.

Really, the issue is compatibility.

Why would someone on self-improvement date someone who clearly wasn't?

What I cared more was the validation of going out with someone.

What's my end goal? A loving family.

If I choose to pursue short-term relationship, I'm going against that ideal.

"I want to get to know them better."

That sentence is a trojan horse.

People say don't judge a book by it's cover. Well, what happens if the book chose it's cover?

The moral of the story is:

  • I shouldn't have asked her out.
  • I need to be more selective about the people I ask out.
  • Long term > short term

BONUS: My Father's Reaction

I discussed to my father about asking this coworker of mine. Just knowing the workplace dynamics about it.

Told him I ended up getting rejected.

"That's alright."

The subtext of his reaction was being a bit surprised.

Parents are right in that they spend the most time with you. They're probably the next best judge to whether or not you're a worthy partner.

Then again, there can be bias because they are your parents.